(Newswire.Net — May 28, 2013) Los Angeles, CA — Careful consideration should take place when researching a Santa Clarita divorce lawyer. Unlike a tangible piece of property, kids have feelings. When emotions run amuck between mom and dad they tend to forget about what the children see and hear. And that can determine who they will end up living with.
It doesn’t matter who you are or what social status you hold in your community, divorce is an unfortunate occurrence, even in the family friendly Santa Clarita Valley. When it is time for parents to split up, the children are normally caught in the middle. And the question is asked, how to divide the kids. It’s easy when assets are on a spread sheet, but difficult when they are children. With that said, it is best to find a Santa Clarita divorce lawyer who specializes in family law and child custody.
Some attorneys who work on divorce will look at the monetary value of the assets being divided and use the kids as barging chips. When that occurs, the child or children feel more like a piece of furniture and not as a person with genuine feelings. What happens in family court stays with kids forever. There are even cases of adult children who go through extensive grieving when their parents get divorced. So when it comes to divorce, age doesn’t matter.
In addition, some kids may feel responsible for their parents breaking up. They can hold onto memories of a fight that happened between their mom and dad then relate that event to the break up.
Another consideration goes back to the title of this article, who gets the kids? Maybe the kids feel closer to one parent than the other. Or perhaps the break up is due to infidelity which in a child’s eyes could hold huge amounts of resentment towards the parent who stepped outside the marriage. In addition if domestic abuse is the cause, the abuse could have happened to the children as well-whether it is physical or emotional.
So if you are in the unfortunate position to be going through a divorce and kids are involved, when researching a Santa Clarita divorce lawyer, take special care that the attorney is well versed in family law and child custody. Think about your kids first and the assets secondary.
As the saying goes, you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family. Make sure you have an amicable parting of the ways as emotional scars can last forever with children and they will never forget. Choosing the right divorce attorney can make all the difference.