We Have a Long Way to Go in Supporting Women’s Grief

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(Newswire.net — May 12, 2019) Guelph, ON — Recently, Hilaria Baldwin has given interviews about her miscarriage, including on the TODAY show (April 9, 2019), and has shared her experiences on her Instagram feed (@hilariabaldwin). She has been praised by many for being brave enough to speak out in an attempt to comfort other women. Hilaria wants women who have lost a child through miscarriage to know that they are not alone, and they shouldn’t have to suffer in silence.

Still, there are the haters.

Comments on her Instagram feed include statements that she’s “annoying” for talking about her miscarriage, that she should keep such things private, and that she should just be grateful for the children she does have.

Miscarriage occurs when an embryo or fetus dies before the 20th week of pregnancy. According to WebMD, estimates of the number of pregnancies that end in miscarriage range from 50% when considering all pregnancies to up to 25% of known pregnancies. Women are still encouraged not to talk about a miscarriage, though the physical and emotional pain are often severe. Because miscarriage is so common, that leaves a lot of women suffering without the support they need to heal.

“Sharing our emotional experiences with other people is an important step toward healing from grief of any kind. The negative comments that Hilaria Baldwin has had to deal with show the importance of sharing with people who are emotionally safe, and not expecting everyone to be helpful” says Tamsen Taylor, Ph.D., the founder of Grief Recovery for Fertility, where she specializes in teaching people how to heal from losses related to fertility challenges and miscarriage.

“Most people don’t know how to support someone grieving a miscarriage, or any loss” notes Tamsen. “It’s my goal to teach people the basics of emotional safety. That way, people suffering know what they need to ask for, and the people who love them know how to help during emotionally difficult times.”

Is there a quick tip to share about how to help moms grieving a miscarriage?

“One main thing that trips people up as they try to help others grieve a miscarriage or any other loss, is that they worry about what to say. Many people find it a relief when they learn that the best thing to say is often nothing at all – that the person who suffered the loss is the person who should be talking. The woman who suffered the miscarriage needs your undivided attention, and they need to talk about their feelings about the death of their baby.” Tamsen suggests. For other tips and to get additional support you can Tamsen online at www.griefrecoveryforfertility.ca. She is also the featured expert on miscarriage support in the book “The One Thing Every Mom Needs to Know“ due out on Mother’s Day.

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About Grief Recovery for Fertility

I offer programs teaching emotional health so that they can know what to ask for when they need support emotionally.

Grief Recovery for Fertility

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