(Newswire.net — December 31, 2013) New York, NY
Could we end divorce? Author Gary Douglas offers new insights into what makes relationships work with his new book, Divorceless Relationships. The most important advice that he can give any couple is how crucial it is to never divorce yourself. It’s a strange concept for many individuals and one that might take some getting used to, yet it makes perfect sense. People need to be absolutely honest about who they are as they enter a relationship. A true partner will embrace every aspect of a loved one, the good and the bad. Only when both members of a relationship can be absolutely open with each other and have complete acceptance will they truly achieve a divorceless relationship.
A Divorceless Relationship Means No More Hiding
It’s human nature to hide our negative traits. We look at the worst in ourselves and try to shield others from our flaws. This is will only create a wall that has to be torn down between two partners. It’s important to reveal what is true about a person and consider a partner’s reactions to all of the positives and negatives that are par for the course with anyone’s personality. When both members in a relationship stop putting up a front for the rest of the world to see, it can be extremely liberating and rewarding. It’s a great relief for the individual as the burden of secrets is lifted from one’s shoulders.
Divorceless Relationships Mean Putting an End to Compromise
Too many couples make one of the biggest mistakes possible when they compromise. Each time a person compromises, it means giving up a piece of one’s self. To make a relationship truly work, it means being completely honest about dislikes and likes. Rather than go along with a partner’s preferences, it means giving each other space and the freedom to enjoy different interests. Being in love should never require a person to give up a crucial part of who he or she is. If one partner in a relationship doesn’t like a particular kind of music, movie, food, or sport, it’s time to speak up about it. This is the perfect time to gather together with friends or family members who do enjoy the same activities. It is also an opportunity for alone time. People need their own space and each partner in a relationship needs to recognize that fact. By allowing each other to truly enjoy different pastimes, both members in a relationship will find contentment.
If You Need to Change Your Partner, a Divorceless Relationship May Not Be Possible
Striving to end divorce a divorceless relationship also means recognizing when it is time to walk away. Douglas suggests making a private list of eight things that could be changed about a partner to make a relationship more satisfying. The next step is to think long and hard about each item. If the changes are not within the realm of possibility, it is time to move on for the sake of both partners.