(Newswire.net — January 15, 2015) Syosset, NEW YORK —
Taking care of your aging parents is something you hope you’ll never need to do. It means helping them prepare for the future, which could be frustrating, physically, emotionally and financially. Should the need arise, there are two things you can be certain of: Your parents need you, and you need help.
Speak with your parents about the future
The first step is to talk with them about their needs and wishes, if they are able. Sometimes, however, they may not be willing to speak with you regarding their future, either because they are afraid to face it or because they resent any interference. If this is the case, you may have to do as much planning as you can without them, or, if their safety or health is in danger, intervene as caregiver.
Prepare a personal data record
Prepare a personal data record (if they are unable to assist you, you’ll need to look for the information yourself). A personal data record is a document that lists information that you might need in the event your parents become incapacitated or die. Information that should be incorporated is financial information, legal information, medical information, insurance information, and information regarding professional advisors and the location of important records.
Example(s): When Marcia and her mother prepared a personal data record, Marcia realized that her mother did not have a resilient power of attorney or health care proxy in case she became incapacitated and could not make decisions about her medical care. The next day, Marcia made an appointment with her mother’s lawyer to discuss this issue.
Get advice
You cannot know everything, and you most likely don’t have enough time to discover every little thing you need to know to care for your parents. That’s why you should seek advice from professionals. Some advice will be free, and some you will need to pay for. If you live far from your parents, or are too overwhelmed to handle all your parents’ affairs, you can hire a geriatric care manager who will evaluate your parents’ condition, suggest options, and coordinate professionals who can help. Additionally, talk to your employer. Some companies have established employee assistance programs that offer guidance and assistance to people who are handling personal challenges, including taking care of aging parents.
Get support
Don’t try to care for your parents alone. Many local and national caregiver support groups and community services are offered to assist you deal with taking care of your aging parents. If you don’t know where to start finding help, call the Eldercare Locator, an information and referral service sponsored by the federal government that can direct you to resources available nationally or in your area. Call the Eldercare Locator at (800) 677-1116.
Housing and health care advice
Like many older individuals, where they live will depend upon how healthy they are. As your parents grow older, their health may deteriorate so much that they can no longer live on their own. At this point, you may need to find them in-home health care or health care within a retirement community or nursing home. On the other hand, you may want them to move in with you. In addition, you will need information on managing the cost of health care, long-term care insurance, major medical insurance, Medicare, and Medicaid.
Contact:
- National Association for Home Care
- Visiting Nurse Associations of America
- Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (formerly known as the Health Care Financing Administration)
- American Association of Homes and Services for the Aging
- American Association of Retired Persons (AARP)
- Health Insurance Association of America
Financial advice
If your parents need help managing their finances, you may need to contact professionals whose advice both you and your parents can trust, including one or more of the following individuals or organizations.
Contact:
- Your financial planner
- Your banker
- Your investment counselor
- Your tax attorney
- The Social Security Administration
Legal advice
Legal advisors can help you plan for your parents’ incapacity (including preparing documents such as power of attorneys, medical directives, and living wills), contact nursing home ombudsmen, set up and keep track of guardianship, prep wills, give tax advice, and provide bill payment and representative payee assistance. Many states provide funds for the delivery of free legal services to the elderly and many attorneys specialize in elder law, so finding legal advice shouldn’t be difficult.
Contact:
- Your attorney
- National Association of State Units on Aging
- American Bar Commission on the Legal Problems of the Elderly
- Legal Counsel for the Elderly
Taking care of aging parents can be challenging. There are many resources available to help you cope. Being prepared and leaning on those resources will help make the task easier.
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