(Newswire.net — November 21, 2015) –Unemployment can be a very disturbing factor in a relationship, especially if people lose a job suddenly and without any previous hint or warning. They find themselves totally unprepared for what is coming and start losing their heads very easily.
Until that moment, people are already used to a certain lifestyle, they buy certain things, have hobbies they pay for and have favorite places for holidays. Depending on at what time of the year one becomes unemployed, sudden cuts in the budget become even more or painful.
This is a very complicated situation and getting used to it is extremely difficult. At first, people try to behave normally as if nothing is going on. After a few days it becomes clear that things that were used to be bought on a daily basis suddenly become a kind of luxury. Once the brain processes this information, it starts a mutiny and falls into a complete denial, going on with rthe usual type of behavior and soon enough, this type of arguments starts happening:”You are the one who lost the job, why should I suffer because of you, I don’t want to give up my yoga/squash lessons, find a new job, you are hopeless”, as so on. In another few days, more things are excluded from the daily shopping list and playing tennis has to be given up and replaced with jogging.
It is individual, of course, how much time one needs to get accustomed to the idea, but it is estimated that the time needed for this new situation to be accepted is around a month or two, depending on whether the couple is married or not and whether they have children or not, which is the worst case scenario. On the other hand, if children are included in the story, it is much easier for parents to deprive themselves of things rather than to disturb their children’s routine.
There are a lot of factors which affect the longevity of the situation, but no matter how long it lasts, the relationship suffers on daily basis and things that happen during it usually stay marked somewhere and cannot be forgotten. It is one of the toughest things that can put the relationship to the test. It takes a lot of love and patience to endure it and unfortunately, very rarely it does.
There is an old proverb going something like this:”When money goes out the door, love goes out through the window.”Unfortunately, it is very true, so hang in there; losing a job is not the end of the world and sooner or later a new one can be found, but a good and loving partner not so easily.