Not Impressing Her? Reasons Why and How to Change Her Mind

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( — September 24, 2018) — There’s no man on earth who doesn’t wish to last longer in bed. Every man wants to have a control over their erection and recover faster after sex. When men aren’t satisfied with their sex life, particularly their performance, their self-esteem suffers.

The reason why every man wishes to have harder erections and last longer in bed is to impress their partner. They want to give the best sexual experience to their partner and meet their potential expectations from them. However, sometimes men fail to last longer in bed. This happens when a man is suffering from a condition called ‘premature ejaculation’.

Premature Ejaculation (PE)

According to sex therapists, premature ejaculation is an ejaculation that occurs before the male wants to ejaculate. Usually, a man who suffers from PE ejaculates without one minute of penetration. Penetration ideally lasts for seven to thirteen minutes which means that a man who ejaculates within a minute of penetration won’t be able to satisfy his partner.

An extensive review featured in the International Journal of Impotence Research reports that about 30 percent of men suffer from PE. Premature ejaculation can occur because of out-of-balance hormones, excessive alcohol consumption, sexual abuse, early sexual experiences, or/and anxiety and depression.

A man who suffers from premature ejaculation isn’t able to satisfy his partner and ejaculates even before she reaches climax. A person who is in a relationship with a man suffering from premature ejaculation experiences less sexual satisfaction. This can result in stress in the relationship.

When men aren’t able to impress their partner with their sexual performance, they experience stress and anxiety. Such men should involve their partner in their internal struggles and should tell them about their anxieties. The two should look for a solution together and the partner should be supportive during such times.

Treatment for Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can be treated. The simplest way to cure premature ejaculation is to practice pelvic exercises or kegel exercises. The pelvic floor muscles that control the urination flow also control ejaculation. By strengthening these muscles, a man can get better at controlling his ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation can also be controlled by changing up sexual practices. Some sexual positions cause more tension on the muscles than others which can make a man cum earlier. These kinds of sexual positions should be avoided. A man can also employ the stop-start method to avoid ejaculating early: when a man feels like orgasm is building up, he should stop thrusting for a few seconds while allowing the sensation to fade. When the sensation is gone, a man can start thrusting again. The stop-start method requires discipline as it can be hard to control the desire to ejaculate when the penis is being stimulated.

Chemical and mechanical solutions are also available for the premature ejaculation problem. For example, a man who suffers from premature ejaculation can use thicker condoms to reduce sensation allowing him to last longer during intercourse.

The sexy feelings during the intercourse can also be numbed using creams. Emla Cream in particular has been found helpful for treatment of premature ejaculation. This cream is applied directly to the penis to reduce sensitivity at the tip. Click Pharmacy advises men to be cautious when using these kinds of cream because if the cream transfers onto their partner, their sensitivity will be affected.

A medicine called Priligy is also used in the treatment of premature ejaculation. Men should consult their doctor to confirm the dose that is ideal for them.

Avoiding Performance Anxiety

Sometimes premature ejaculation occurs because of a man’s own performance anxiety. He is so focused on impressing his partner by lasting long that he gets tense and loses control over ejaculation. Men should know that sex is not something that they are meant to perform for their partner. It’s a shared experience co-created by two people. Many women would have three minutes of intimate and passionate sex with a loving partner rather than an hour-long sex session with someone who they feel is only interested in impressing her with his timing.

So, a man who suffers from premature ejaculation should relax and try to calm themselves down during sex. They should know that their partner loves them no matter what the case. Moreover, premature ejaculation is a treatable problem. A man should start with kegel exercises to strengthen his pelvic floor muscles to last long. If that doesn’t work other solutions like creams and medicines should be considered.